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For constructive consentual problem-solving in all areas of family life. Committed to finding ways out of the coercion/self-sacrifice mire of conventional parenting. We are variously critical rationalists, libertarians, home educators and attachment-parents but we take our ideas where we find them. Whatever really makes sense is Rational Parenting! (No, we don't know what that is for every situation in advance: we just keep looking).
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From constructive consentual problem-solving comes the growth of good relationship dynamics: this is what all the goodness in families is made of! Coercion damages relationships. Making people do things they don't consider right for themselves, whether by force or manipulation, undermines trust, love and friendship. The best thing we can do for our children is genuinely befriend them. Friendship is about helping: not bullying, "disciplining", pressurising, punishing or trying to control.
We don't need that stuff, we just think we need that stuff. The more trust, the more positive the family dynamic, the stronger the systems for problem-solving, the more flexibility and generosity and kindness and genuinely shared concern people have for one another, the further away the likelihood of conflict, stalemate and opposing interests: and those are the pre-conditions for using second-rate solutions such as force, on others or- just as bad- on oneself.
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Rational: respectful, caring, helpful, honest, generous, useful, considerate.
Parenting: the job of helping children grow and learn.
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